“His/My wife is a Filipina.”
My good friend Micheline Rama posted this on her Facebook post.
“I can’t recall how many times I’ve heard this phrase. It’s generally innocuous, a bit of small talk. The few times it’s been tinged with malice were usually in cabs or bars.
“My uncle’s wife is a Filipina.” (sneer) “She takes good care of him.” (wink)–but that’s rare…”
Not as rare as you believe, girlfriend. I thought whilst reading. I recalled a similar experience just a few days back, when an Irishman at a bar thought it’d funny to ask me to marry him because he heard ‘Filipinas make good wives’.
“…Today, it came up when a professor pointed out that the book I was reading was written by a man married to a Filipina.
It’s always wives, you see. Yes, also housekeepers and nannies–but in my international social and professional circle at least, it’s generally wives. It’s changing somewhat.
“My PhD student is a Filipina.”
“My boss is a Filipina.”
The women in my culture represented strength, grit and resilience; but perfectly balanced with grace, poise and femininity. My family and social circle were filled with such women. I grew up admiring them, idolizing them, and of course, fearing them.
But you know what line you haven’t heard of yet that could give you a different perspective?
“My ex-girlfriend is a Filipina.”
Mich concluded, and I agree, that this would open a whole other can of worms entirely.